As a leader or visionary entrepreneur, chances are you’ll go through a dark knight of the soul. Today’s guest expert, Rhonda Britten, author of Fearless Living, shares how a dark night is like a rite of passage and how to harness the gems inside of a challenging time.
Founder of the Fearless Living Institute, Rhonda Britten is an Emmy-Award winner and repeat Oprah guest. Rhonda was the first Life Coach on reality television in the world on the first-show of its kind, Life Doctor (Second Season the series name was changed to Help Me Rhonda). Next, Rhonda changed lives on the hit NBC reality show Starting Over and named its “most valuable player” by The New York Times and heralded as “America’s Favorite Life Coach” by TV Guide.
4:52 Rhonda gives a definition of what a dark night of the soul is, including what triggered her dark night that lasted several years.
7:00 Melanie talks about how important it is to have these kind of authentic conversations and how her dark night shattered everything that her defined her version of success.
8:50 How not taking care of yourself can propel you into a dark night, as well as trigger chronic illnesses.
11:22 Rhonda offers insight into how to handle really dark thoughts, such as surrounding yourself with friends, to help you emotionally recover.
13:55 Melanie shares how your mind is not going to solve the dark night and what to do when you are stressed out about how to keep your business going during this phase.
16:56 It’s important to remember that a dark night purpose is to go to a deeper, truer part of yourself and to learn to use skills that you haven’t yet developed.
20:49 Fear can control us by needing to know how to move through a dark night (or any challenge.) The way to experience true freedom is to let go of the addiction of needing to know.
26:24 One way to move through a dark night is to be willing to honor your truth, even if it’s not matching what the popular advice is.
30:01 A paradigm shift is that experiencing a dark night is a compliment, and a sign that you are ready to go much deeper in order to serve on a greater level.
35:45 During a dark night you may have to make your goals smaller and easier. Don’t let competition drive you in this phase. Your number one job during a dark night is to take care of yourself and heal
39:00 Melanie talks about how eating habits and certain foods can trigger worse symptoms. It’s important to know if you have food sensitivities that are trigger emotional swings or chronic illnesses.
43:00 If you are willing to let go of what you have now, you can make space for something more fulfilling, more aligned and a greater expression of your true talent.
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